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so…how is married life?

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So a new category begins today, admittedly a few months after the date.  This category will be “Married Life.”  As I peruse marriage books and live life together with Jenn, I’d like to share a few glimpses into our discoveries, obstacles and victories in hope that just maybe you can relate or be encouraged.

A question that often gets defaulted our way is, “so…how is married life?”  Only being married for a few months leaves our mind pretty blank as to any one sentence answers.  Our usual response is, oh its not really that much different.  I happily relate how its really nice to not have to drive “home” any more at night to go to bed, only to wake up six hours later and drive back to Jenn’s to eat breakfast with her before work; about how now I can just climb into bed ;)  Jenn and I always joke together about what people are asking or what they really want to hear?  Do they want to hear about our sex life? haha.

But I was thinking about how to articulate the difference or the growth.  I believe that married life provides more opportunities to choose to love Jenn!  Its not that Jenn is some horrible person that I need to consciously force myself to love; instead its that living together provides opportunities for me to consciously make my love for her tangible instead of a fleeting feeling that is just assumed to be there.  It’s like realizing a holistic view of love, the feeling that manifests itself into something concrete.

Written by ddhoffman

August 18th, 2008 at 11:20 am

Posted in Married

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  • I personally think, you are deviating from the topic.
    Yes Marriage, wedding, togetherness are sacred. They do have a meaning, a very very strong meaning. This is just that person that is best capable of filling me with those deficiencies I have, not necesary thinking or doing the things I like in life, but certainly making me feel my best self. Marraige, wedding, intercourse, togetherness, sex etc - is just that..its like solving the puzzle and solving the puzzle every day.

    Evolution of life. Reality of life is - Time, Growth and Entropy.

    History is truth - everything before us, existed and has a meaning in our lives, just the same way we would have an impact on our future generations. \

    Past , Present and Future - we are always in present and remember that it keeps growting with every day we spend. It accumulates on past we have gathered among us. I cannot be called aristotle, if I told what he told today. I am not even sure, if my language would be understood by even 0.000001% population. Living life in present is what is required of us. If you have found your partner, it is your direction to completeness..she or he always help fill that void.
  • Mmm, thank you for this reminder. This is often something I want the other person in the relationship (platonic or romantic) to just "get" - if I'm hanging out with you obviously I care for you! Of course investing time is a key component, but it needs to be made clear in other ways as well.

    PS. When is the s-e-x life post?!?
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